... ninky minjaj... I'm Ashe, I'm 17, I'm a tired bisexual (He/Him). Icon by @averageaiden ! Too many memes. I almost never use queue. I do writing but I don't post it. RICH PEOPLE NEVER TRULY DIE.
The day after The Last Jedi came out I was shopping for a birthday present for a friend at a nerd store and these two guys walk up behind me, obviously wanting to look at where I was looking. One of them said “probably buying something for her boyfriend…stick to blow jobs bitch it’s not like you know what you’re looking at” so I turned around and say “Luke Skywalker dies.”
They look at me speechless, they hadn’t seen the movie yet. “What did you say?”
“I said Luke Skywaler dies. He force projects himself to fight Kylo Ren and then dies. And if you don’t get the fuck away from me I’ll tell you how Snoke dies too”
(These are full sentences! You do not need to say any more)
I am not comfortable.
I am not comfortable, I would like…
you to wait a moment.
another person in the room.
everyone else out of the room.
a doctor/nurse of my same gender to preform this test/procedure.
the person who came with me to this appointment in the room.
you to explain everything before you begin.
you to tell me what you are doing as you go.
to do this another day.
I want to get a second opinion before we proceed.
I don’t understand, please repeat that.
I don’t understand, please explain more simply.
Please say that slower/spell that, I want to do some research myself.
I would like to talk to [someone in my life, ie my parents to SO] before making this decision.
No, I do not need to talk to [anyone] before making this decision, I am confidant on my own and am ready to proceed.
What are the side effects of this medication/procedure? What are the potential complications?
Why are you recommending/prescribing this specific thing?
What other treatment options are there? Why are you choosing this?
Would your treatment plan be different if I were a man/woman older/younger had kids, etc? Why are you choosing this one then?
IS there anything I should know about this treatment you have not yet told me?
I understand you say not to, but If I choose to do X, against medical advice, what risks am I running? (ie taking recreational drugs while on medication)
How much will this cost?
Are there any less expensive options/tests we can run first?
Is there a generic of this medication you can prescribe instead?
I think you are not understanding me, I said…
You are not listening to me, please let me finish describing my symptoms.
You are not understanding how much pain I am in, let me clarify…
I do not think it is anxiety/depression/my weight/etc, what else could it potentially be?
I think by assuming it is anxiety/depression/my weight/etc you are ignoring some symptoms. Please listen again and let’s discuss what else it could be.
Please write in my chart that you are not testing for X and why not.
I am in enough pain/this is detrimental enough to my life that non-treatment is not an option. If you can not treat this/figure out what is wrong, to whom can you refer me?
Please write (or help me write) a summary of what we did today so I don’t forget
What are our next steps?
If [what you are recommending] is ineffective, what would my next steps be? What other doctor should I talk to?
What is the best way to contact you if I have additional questions or issues?
Remember, a doctor is a person YOU pay because they know a lot about bodies in general, to help you figure out whats best for YOUR body. It is still your body, not theirs! They know about medicine but you are the expert in your body. Don’t let them act like they own you. Don’t leave if you’ve still got questions, don’t stay if you’re uncomfortable, and feel free to insist on ANY information you want.
You know what? It really fucking bothers me that tumblr turned “instrusive thoughts” into “eat that leaf hehe” when in reality, the term was created to explain the violent and seriously disturbing, unwanted thoughts that mentally ill specifically compulsive, people get against their will. Not only did tumblr take the term, but intentionally said “intrusive thoughts are rarely violent”. A straight up lie.
So i’m here to tell you. Intrusive thoughts are violent, disturbing thoughts that you do not want to be thinking. The actual definition of “intrusive thoughts” is:
unwanted thoughts or images that you find distressing and/or disturbing.
You know what’s not distressing or disturbing? Eating leaves. Touching things. Whatever tumblr tries to sell as “intrusive thoughts”. You know what my intrusive thoughts look like? Big fat heavy content warning: “you know if you jump off the stairs you’ll be heavy enough to just crush your dogs skull and kill her you could do that did you know that you should do that why don’t you just kill your dog”. Violent. Distressing. Disturbing.
The term was created to tell people with compulsory disorders that those thoughts are not you and that having those thoughts doesn’t make you a bad person. It drives me wild that tumblr took something to make mentally ill people feel better about themselves and said “actually violent thoughts aren’t intrusive, it’s things like “eat that leaf.”
Impulsive thoughts and intrusive thoughts ARE NOT THE SAME THING!!!!
This is actually really helpful because the tumblr brand of Intrusive Thoughts left me believing my ACTUAL intrusive thoughts were me just being a horrible person.
“you talk like a smart/pretentious person” actually I just forget simple words constantly and am forced to rummage through my brain for the nearest synonym, which is usually twice as long and needlessly specific
